In the lexicon (language) and tradition of gay men's sexual practices, the bottom refers to the sexual position of the man who has his ass (buttocks) fucked (penetrated) by his sexual partner's erect and fully engorged penis (cock, dick). In other words, he sticks his dick inside your ass and keeps the motion going until he ejaculates (cums) his semen (male body fluid).
For this reason, it is important and ultimately essential for the bottom to realize and understand that his top partner (the man who inserts his penis inside the ass) is usually stimulated or sexually aroused by the sight of a man's ass being exposed and offered up for his pleasure. The top may become fully erect and ready for sex just by watching his bottom strip before any sexual foreplay is even engaged.
This situation affords a certain amount of "power" (advantage) to the willing bottom. He posesses the object of his top's desire (his ass). The top, at this point of the engagement, is able to achieve sexual gratification through masturbation or else fucking (penetrating) his bottom. Another slang term for the bottom's ass is "bussy." This is a combination of two words: boy (male) and pussy (slang term for a woman's vagina). The top needs his bottom in order to relieve his sexual stress.
At this point, the bottom can consent to immediately consummation of the sexual act (fucking) or can opt for additional foreplay which can include the mutual oral stimulation of the cocks (sucking or blow job), nipple play, the top orally stimulating the bottom's ass (eating ass or rimming) and/or other sexual fetishes (armpit play, sucking toes, etc).
A good bottom is one who effectively communicates with his partner. It is best to state what is actually expected and desired from the sexual encounter. When in doubt and to avoid any misunderstanding, it is a good idea to prepared to demonstrate the meaning of any sexual preference. For example, if a bottom is excited by having his armpits serviced, plan to do this to the top so he understands what this entails.
The same advice is true for the top. He should effectively communicate his sexual needs to the bottom. If the top enjoys having his testicles (balls) sucked, he should likewise be prepared to perform this action on his bottom for clarification. This communication guarantees that both sexual partners have optimal pleasure during this coupling.
Equally important in the communication field is any special consideration to the other partner. If this is a guy's first time being a bottom, then that information is extremely important. It lets the top know to be patient, gentle and to take things slow. Nothing ruins a first-time more than a fuck where the top unknowingly pounded his bottom's ass like he was drilling for oil.
Author's Note: First time or relatively inexperienced bottoms: Don't count on dildoes as sexual experience. Having a live man's cock inside you is nothing like playing with an anatomical model. The model isn't alive but the man inside your ass is and it is extremely unlikely that the man who's dick is about to enter you is exactly the same as size as your practice model. Don't let your inexperience be the disappointment for you both. Your being the bottom means you want and need his erect cock inside your ass!
And the same holds true for the top as well. If this is your first time fucking another man, then let your bottom know! Letting him know allows him to be patient with you and not expect a raging bull charging into his backsides (ass, buttocks, cakes). Be honest and avoid unnecessary failures of hopes and expectations.
Again, communication is the key to both men having a rewarding and mutually satisfying fuck-session (lovemaking). In letting each other know what to expect, the disappointment factor is lowered if not eliminated completely. In the dialogue explaining your needs and expectations, both partners are sharing what is important to each one and demonstrating how to please. This gives some quality to the sexual encounter and leaves room for no complaints!
Take care and stay proud and bare!
ReNude Pride
No comments:
Post a Comment